What have you been reading? Sezession? Or De Benoist's Elemente?
Generally spoken, the right has never and will never be united unter one common ideology.
In fact I believe that, at least in the early 19th century, the right has been way more ideologically diverse than the left. Take a look at Armin Mohler's "Die Konservative Revolution" (I think I mentioned it some day) and you will find hundreds of ideological subgroups under the great banner of the conservative revolution, ranging from pagans to christians, from socialists too monarchists and what not.
Even when the ideological channel tightened after the rise of Hitler and and the extermination of the left-wing NatSocs, there still wasn't a coherent ideology, chef ideologues like Rosenberg, Baeumler and even Ludwig Klages brawled for the supremacy in Reich thought, even after Hitler told that he was being in favor of Rosenberg.
What has proven a more unifying element to the right has been the style, the aesthetics as well as the common enemy: communism.
But back to today: so yes, you're right, they're not united at all - which doesn't make them weaker. It's rather quite the opposite. Seeing the common enemy in left wing extremism/antifa as well as gender/lgbt-ideology and what Renaud Camus (in my opinion quite unluckily) titled "Le grand remplacement"/migration/Islam, is something a right-wing millionaire (which isn't as rare as you might think btw) and the economically rather left-leaning social patriot ("Solidarischer Patriotismus") can agree on, even though they might be utter enemies when it comes to economic topics (even though I think the right-wing millionaire will always find a way to get along with the flow, because money is always needed).
All of these common enemies can be haven by liberals or liberal conservatives as well as strict anti-liberalists and I think that they will be the missing link.
As you might have followed, the AfD is falling apart, but I'm pretty sure that what it is living through will strengthen the german right.
Talking of the youth: I have to "samples" I can tell you about, both rural, both not older than 18. One living in rural western germany. For the boys it's normal to celebrate marches and shit on feminism, nobody takes the teachers brabbling about diversity serious anymore.
The other sample rural eastern germany, where it's (at least for boys) pretty normal to have right wing sentiments, even if they just come out in "racist" jokes and edgy speech or voting AfD (remember the lasst elections over there). One day my friend over there I'm talking of (girl, formerly leftist herself because of le attention, nowadays apolitical) told me how her whole class was mobbing some antifa girl, teasing her with any politically incorrect stuff, while she said that they were "literally nazis" for saying such things.
Oh yeah, not to forget the police over
Girls just go after the flow, if the majority of guys will be right wing, they will be as well. Sure, my examples are rural - but I don't wanna talk about those living in the big cities, I think they are lost anyways - spiritually, culturally, stripped to the bones from any identity, soon to vanish into nihil, watching the suburbs they've grown up in slowly being filled with muslims, while listening to their music, eating their food, dressing like them and smoking their hookahs. They will die out fast.
Still you might say, no consistent ideology and nothing to fill the spiritual void of the 21st century and you are right. But you answered your question on your own: it's all about the elite.
As I'm concerned a strong state needs a strong elite. I think our elite is rotten and degenerate, fat post-war children and boomer scaredy-pants still crying themselves to sleep about le holocaust.
You know, I regularily go to the opera so I see those people, they're literally old, weak people falling apart, not having any successors.
If you're interested in right wing conceptions of "Elite" and as well a good introduction into scientific elite studies, I can only recommend to you Gerd-Klaus Kaltenbrunners "Elite".
Another point, entirely dismissed at the moment: the immigrants themselves. I'm deeply convinced that soon-to-be muslim and africans majorities in cities will mean the end of (at least intersectional) leftism anyways. Socialism itself might survive in some kind of green-islamic form as thought out in Houellebecq's Soumission, but not in the lgbt-flag kind of way, that liberalist leftists are pushing nowadays. I mean lol, we're literally talking of people who hunt little girls as witches in their homelands, still live in tribes and trade women for cows. What do you think they're going to do, when antifas try to explain transgender rights to them?
So in the end for the left there is no choice in my opinion than to gang up with european right-wingers (and I think that this will happen in masses soon) or team up with the POC-migrants.