You completely missed the point I was trying to make. "That asshole" is to you as "that skank" is to her.
>>"women only liking assholes"
>This is something I've come to appreciate from women with time.
Maybe I did not phrase it clearly enough but the implication being that phrase is the kind of retarded stereotype of what incels think. It's utterly untrue.
I'm sure this is going to fill you with ragequite frankly most of these videos are pretty cringey, niche, and I only ran across this seeing if I could find a psych major video not just a bunch of e-thots and by god are they cringey and at times misleading
This is the best succinct explanation from the woman's point of view, and while every time I woman verbalizes what "she wants" it should be taken with a grain of saltit goes back to that woman saying "I'm fine" then flipping out why you didn't figure out what's wrong, they will say the complete opposite of what they mean on occasion so you need to have a massive amount of attentiveness, empathy, personal skills etc. in these moments and a good many basically expect you to be the sturdy rock in the maelstrom including not being overly emotional, note that's not the same as emotionless or unempathetic
but all that being stated this is one of the best most accurate ways of saying it in as few words as possible.
>being dominant is not the same thing as being an aggressive egotistical selfish self involved sociopathic manbaby
This is a key thing incels never recognize, which they routinely go for the latter, mistaking being an asshole for being dominant.
Like for instance all these dudes with their PUA books don't get say Putin. Putin can just look at you and express dominance, in fact I'd say eye contact is the key to dominance but in the right way, which again leads to KC tier staring creepily at a cashier "write it down." It's a calm easy self confidence.
Okay let me put it to you this way, who do you expect to be the good husband and father figure? An egotistical self involved asshole who neglects his wife, beats his kids, wastes his money on drinking and gambling, is not faithful, doesn't recognize the emotional or material needs of others, and acts like an all around jackass? Or the strong, independent, self assured, responsible man who is able to protect those closest to him--with violence if necessary--and is ready able and willing to make great sacrifices of himself for others?
See here's the key thing about the asshole, and it is frankly the biggest problem among internet addicts/IB dwellers/incels, which is that they are the least self sacrificing. To be a good husband and father means to sacrifice. They mistake this, which is manly strength, for weakness, and then wonder why women sniff this tendency out in them and despise them. You can literally look like the ultra masculine body builder dude imageboards like to repost and she's still just going to fuck guys behind your back because--and here's the key here--she is not ever going to respect you, and respect is all. Well, that plus sense of safety and good communication, two things incels also routinely fail at.
I don't know what Elliot's deal was besides being an absolute twat of a human, but yeah
>even my cousins are male
>sonbasket on top
This really doesn't help you. As a younger guy I felt pretty at ease around women because of the opposite. Me mum wasn't around a lot but I had tons of female peers, cousins, relatives, etc. so I've always felt more at ease around women. Even now come to think of it I'm actually shocked what they seem to feel safe or comfortable telling me, where on the flipside some women will adamantly deny they even masturbate if they're not comfortable around men or you in particular.
>nd especially confident men because they generally have the aptitude to both provide for and support any potential offspring
This is exactly what I am saying. I mean isn't Putin a manlet? Yet any woman he'd marry is going to be among the most protected and looked after women and children in the entire planet.
Really just think what makes a good father figure and husband, not a good fuckboy. Women don't respect fuckboys and they cheat on them.This isn't to say every cheated on guy is one though, and every year I get older I cringe more and more about the guys I accidentally or intentionally dicked over and feel great shame about it. First two completely was not my intention but it seemed to boil down to they weren't paying enough attention and sacrificing their energy to their gfs who eventually caught me in some moment of weakness where things could happen after I said no. The last one told me point blank she was about to break up with him and then went on an expensive vacation with the dude which I thought was pretty shitty and then she tried to sneak around too, which interestingly she put to me as him "trying to control her by buying her things" and she did get super butthurt about me trying to buy her shit too and liked paying for her own meals to be fair. The last one I did know what I was doing and didn't give a shit at allif it makes you feel any better that was the most dramatic toxic relationship ultimately
Basically, take care of your woman and don't neglect them without coming off as too needy or not a strong enough guy. No woman wants to be your second mother.
>he joined the military, got into a groove and eventually left to become a project manager at some company.
Like I said, the dude is clearly not a loser. He might be dumb as bricks academically but he could cope. If he's a project manager it means he can manage better, meaning he'll both be a breadwinner as well as not useless at running a household or managing better as a father.