Europe is a very diverse place. The empty mid-section of France is hardly comparable to the Netherlands. I can only speak for my part.
Countryside as you likely imagine it does not exist in South-West Germany. Population density is high at 300 inhabitants/km². all of the country is well developed, decades of spatial planning according to the theories and guidelines of Walter Christaller had the intended results, almost no one lives more than 45 minutes from a central place of the highest order (regional center). Even people who live in the countryside mostly do not work in farming.
>i have almost never seen a thread made by a western european about life as a farmer
your chances of finding a farmer on an image board are very small, a low single digit percentage of the population works in farming, and they are mostly not the types to lurk on image boards. I can try to answer some questions, but in general, it is all very unsurprising.
>Do these people have special benefits from their goverments for pursuing such a life style there?
EU agriculture is heavily subsidized. This rigs the game in favor of big farmers. Applying for subsidies is basically a considerable fixed effort, but the monetary results scale with the size of the operation. This makes things much better for big farms in northern Germany and East Germany.
>or they are impoverished as for example farmers in the Americas?
Farming is very capital intensive and margins are tight. Farmers often try to stay competitive by making big investments (machinery like milking robots, etc.) and when prices fall, or the equipment does not work as intended, it will cost them dearly. For example, I used to know dairy farmers who had a neighbor design a stable that had a bad layout and made cows step on each other's udder. They could only use it for bulls, and I am certain they lost a lot of revenue from that.
Structural shifts that began in the fifties and sixties are ongoing. In my state, the number of farms has decreased, operation size has increased. Valleys that in the eighties had 4 or 5 mixed farms with 5-30 milk cows, a few pigs a few chickens, etc now have no farm at all. Specialisation has increased. Many switched to stabling riding horses, which is lucrative if not too far from the next big city or wealthy suburb and makes the wives, daughters and nieces happy, since everything is in place to keep one or two horses of their own. There definitely are more farmers who struggle to make ends meet than there are well-to-do farmers, but they are certainly not dirt-poor by the standards of south america.
Average acreage per farm in Baden-Wurttemberg has increased from 7 ha to almost 40 ha in the past 50 years, while the number of farming operations is now only 1/10 of what it was. https://www.statistik-bw.de/Landwirtschaft/Agrarstruktur/Betriebe-LFGK.jsp
This is still very small by international and national comparison. It is a result of partible inheritance, were all children inherited land in equal parts and each field was individually split between all the children. Intensive specialized cultures like vineyards, asparagus, hops, fruit, etc. mostly have very small acreage and lower the average.
From the mid 19th century onwards, many farms were operated part-time by factory-workers or tradesmen. With increasing mechanisation during the post-war period, the small farms with their numerous very small fields became more problematic, as they could not be worked with machines economically. Farmsteads often were located in tight historical village centers, which were hard to get through with big farming equipment and left little space for newly built garages. Government subsidies allowed farmers to build new farmhouses outside the villages (Aussiedlerhof, typical form pictured, state in 1970), a land-reform redistributed fields among the farmers to consolidated small fields into bigger fields. (Flurbereinigung, map from Ravensburg county).
Personal economic circumstances of farmers today vary with the success of the operation. Gentleman-farming were wealthy people operate just as a hobby does not exist, but part-time farming still does.
>Here life in the farm is mostly for people who are either too ignorant to have a job in the city
Most farmers have either been to trade school or university for farming-related subjects, many are trained in a mechanics-related field like farming-equipment maintenance, industrial mechanics, etc. Practically all of them could find another job elsewhere.
>Job in the city
is not really that much of a thing, since the economic geography is not as centralized as in most of the world. There are world-known companies in the middle of nowhere. I know it's a cliché, but one based in fact. Kärcher (the one with the pressure washers) has their biggest plant in Bühlertal, which is rural by our standards, but again, just 1 hour from Stuttgart.
>My family falls in the second category, thought when my parents were young they definitely were in the first.